tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3391148493629545748.post2337855647949712584..comments2023-05-12T00:37:25.277-10:00Comments on Adventures in Paradise: But will I still respect myself in the morningDaffodil Campbellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16717449858483592519noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3391148493629545748.post-81604520626418512972010-05-03T09:31:45.919-10:002010-05-03T09:31:45.919-10:00I don't think you need to feel bad about yours...I don't think you need to feel bad about yourself because you decided to go back. For a few reasons: <br /><br />1. You left in the first place, and you didn't leave pitching a screaming fit. You were assertive and left with dignity. <br />2. There are as many good reasons to return as there are bad ones that may crop up again. <br />3. You didn't go groveling back for your job. The proverbial olive branch was offered, and even then you didn't jump to return. You expressed reservations and explored your position with the other staff. <br /><br />The way that you have handled yourself through this whole thing has been superb. You are right, there will always be assholes to deal with no matter where the place or time, or what the job is. You have demonstrated that you can tolerate a lot, but that you have limits. <br /><br />Some of the best advice I ever got about about dealing with someone who consistently takes advantage of your or is abusive regarded the setting limits and sticking to them. You need to decide what is/isn't acceptable behavior on his part, then you have to tell him what it is, and the consequence if that line is crossed (I'm gone forever, apologies or not). Then you have to stick to it. If you follow this I don't think you have to worry that you are compromising your integrity by going back. You already have shown that you have the strength of character to walk out in your own defense once. It is fair to accept an apology and try again, as long as your limits are clear both to him and to yourself. BUT that last part is the most important, you have to decide before that first shift what you are willing to tolerate and what you are not.Cara J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/04598918663809383615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3391148493629545748.post-71925345296482192782010-05-02T18:56:03.050-10:002010-05-02T18:56:03.050-10:00Wow, what a place to be in. I'm glad that you,...Wow, what a place to be in. I'm glad that you, in the very least, got an apology. Hope you can come to a decision soon, hey. Happy thoughts!Ellyhttp://www.rarg.co.nznoreply@blogger.com